Today's makes it exactly 1 week since my wife confessed to me that I'm not the father of our first child, that the child belongs to her ex boyfriend who is back for the child. This is a boy I've been talking care of for over 6years thinking it's my son. God, I cried or three straight days and till now the pains is increasing every single day... Though I've chased her out of my house. Please guys, how do i heal and move on? The pains and depression is too much to the point to the point that i attempted suicide yesterday. One of the painful part is that i don't have anyone to talk to, not even my family because i fought my family just to marry her, none of them supported me to marry her and because of that since i married her we've never communicated with any of my family till today. I thank God for nairaland. Admin pls push to front page, I need to heal.

Eyah... Sorry

Abeg Bleep off.
Men also do this and it's OK for a wife to live with it, according to the society. But once the table turn around, our ears will be noisy with society stupid rants.

fiction everywhere on nairaland. at least to make front page!? food for the mods

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You should be grateful

You fight your family cos of woman...

Wawuu... unfair..very unfair...same woman come still shock you with another person pikin...

Go 4 DNA 1st

Find Mari J Uana , and forget your sorrow

This is the reward of simping.

I don't feel sorry for you at all. Stop wifing these ho's.

Oh boy, I know it's painful, but suicide is definitely not an option.

Put yourself together and move on with life. Things may eventually turn out for your good.
One thing I know for sure though is that you will never trust any woman again!

Jeon:
Abeg Bleep off.
Men also do this and it's OK for a wife to live with it, according to the society. But once the table turn around, our ears will be noisy with society stupid rants.

. I swear,to settle down dismantle like 3-4 teeth out of this your yeye mouth na the only thing wey go give me joy through out this new week .

Just count yourself lucky say you no dey close to me at this moment........Which kind mumu advice be this,this morning na?

The truth is, you must go through the emotional pain of knowing you've been betrayed by a lady you loved and gave everything to. I know this because I have gone through something similar, although not as similar as yours, but it involved paternity fraud, but we weren't married.

You've done well by taking her out of your home. A move very necessary for your mental health. I will add this - a woman whom you caught cheating on you, if you still maintain whatever relationship existing between you both, such a woman will never respect you. Subconsciously, she would always see you as that guy who will accept the lowest of lows. Such a woman will never love you genuinely because she doesn't feel and see you as a superior man. In fact, the very fact that she cheated on you, bore another man's child while being with you should tell you that she does not rate you. You shouldn't be with a lady that doesn't rate you.

It's also time to get closer to God. Ask God in prayer to lift this heavy burden of pain off your chest. This is the only therapy that can help you.

In closing, you will be fine if you don't harm yourself. Today I'm in a better place emotionally than I was 5 or 6 years back. Life will always get better with time.

I don't know why we all have this mentality.

If you have truly loved the child and taken good care of the child, Who will the child take as the Father?

I never felt any fake connection for any of my babies when they were born. Only in taking care of them daily, that's what created that connection.

The fact that it's not your sperm or not your egg is just biology Bro.

Being a Father is much more than that. Don't let societal norms get you crazy.

This even kinda shows you love your child conditionally.

Let the child go.

The connection (if you have truly built it) will always bring the child back to you.

I personally see Fatherhood and Parenthood as a privilege, not a right.

Take your wife back.

We Men of today need wisdom from Heaven to be able to handle our wives maturely while still maintaining leadership.

It's really kinda difficult nowadays, May God help us all.

Since she is no longer in your life. You should connect with your family now.

incogni2o:
I don't know why we all have this mentality.

If you have truly loved the child and taken good care of the child, Who will the child take as the Father?

I never felt any fake connection for any of my babies when they were born. Only in taking care of them daily, that's what created that connection.

The fact that it's not your sperm or not your egg is just biology Bro.

Being a Father is much more than that. Don't let societal norms get you crazy.

This even kinda shows you love your child conditionally.

Let the child go.

The connection (if you have truly built it) will always bring the child back to you.

I personally see Fatherhood and Parenthood as a privilege, not a right.

Take your wife back.

We Men of today need wisdom from Heaven to be able to handle our wives maturely while still maintaining leadership.

It's really kinda difficult nowadays, May God help us all.

Your comment is totally wrong! If the wife had told him earlier it would have been better, not after 6 years! Argh, even when the child’s real dad came wanting to take back his child!

I mean the signs are there , you just decide to ignore , what do you expect ? , my pity wont be stressed on wastage like you , this is just the begining you enabler , my empathy is not for slowpokes

This is sad.

Worthy of note: Never severe relationship with your family to be with a partner.

Phew

Sonnobax15:
. I swear,to settle down dismantle like 3-4 teeth out of this your yeye mouth na the only thing wey go give me joy through out this new week .

Just count yourself lucky say you no dey close to me at this moment........Which kind mumu advice be this,this morning na?

omoh..........senior man dn para

Move on dude life continues.
Have this in mind nothing
Should be Worth you ending your life.
If you want, you can change environment or state. Be strong